Yorba Linda Counseling, Irvine Psychologist, Anaheim Therapist in Yorba Linda, CA, California - Dr. Sherrie Campbell, Ph.D.
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Escape Enmeshment!!

Enmeshment is what happens when we let someone take over our lives, decisions and emotions. Compromise is a mutual give and take where each person maintains their individuality. Toxic people thrive on enmeshment by getting other people to focus on what they need instead of their own individual needs. If we end up in a relationship where we feel we are consistently pleasing someone else to the detriment of ourselves then we can be sure we are involved in toxic pattern. Oftentimes we will deny certain aspects of ourselves in the name of love or for the sake of love. When this happens we may have gained a relationship but we have lost ourselves. So what happens when the relationship ends is a profound sense of despair, loneliness and a loss…loss, not only of the relationship, but even more damaging is we realize we have totally lost ourselves. It is hard to start over when we are lost to ourselves. Remember, healthy relationships promote your individuality. You will know how healthy you are if you can be strong enough to stay true to who you are in your relationships. The value of loving yourself is inexpressible. It is the blood that runs from the root through the vein to the top so you can blossom. If you are sacrificing out of fear in a relationship, you can never be fully expressed. Take courage…and never lose yourself. If you feel lost already…begin to get back to who you are by setting limits, redefining who you are and loving yourself.

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Dr. Sherrie Campbell is a licensed counselor, psychologist, and marriage and family therapist in Yorba Linda, CA,
providing counseling and psychotherapy services to residents of Yorba Linda, Irvine, Anaheim, Fullerton and Brea, California.

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