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Monday Mindset: Cleaning House

Life begins to happen more effortlessly for us as we remove negative people from our lives. If we think about it, how is success or happiness possible if we’re miserable? All it takes is one negative person to make us feel as if life itself is not all its cracked up to be. The reason this is, is because emotions are contagious and it is easier to be negative than positive. It’s so incredibly important to clean house, and reality is, cleaning house is terrifying. It is scary because as good people, we question ourselves on if “cleaning house” is mean, immoral, or somehow indicative of us being the bad person. Intellectually we know it is healthy to clean house, but we also know that when we rid our lives of toxic people they will accuse us of being the exact things we fear and don’t want to be; mean and selfish. This is why parting ways is so hard and so confusing. We must hold the mindset that any boundaries set for our health and well-being are not only the correct boundaries for us, but they are also the exact boundaries that toxic people need to experience the consequences of their own actions. Whether they choose to learn from those consequences or not is not up to us, but in setting boundaries they are given an opportunity to have some insight. Our main worry and concern needs to be focused on our own emotional well-being. We have every right to take care of ourselves, and to nurture and cultivate our well-being without feeling guilty or selfish. Other healthy people will encourage us to do our personal work, they will want for our happiness, and for us to elevate our lives. So, if we are made to feel guilty for doing this, that is our sign that we are on the other side of a toxic perosn.

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Dr. Sherrie Campbell is a licensed counselor, psychologist, and marriage and family therapist in Yorba Linda, CA,
providing counseling and psychotherapy services to residents of Yorba Linda, Irvine, Anaheim, Fullerton and Brea, California.

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