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Monday Mindset: Love And Drama Cannot Coexist

If somone makes you miserable more than happy, it doesn’t matter how much you love them, you need to let them go. You cannot think or love people into changing. You have to examine your own happiness, instead of focusing on how much you think another should could change. If you’re not happy, that is the most important information you need to start making the necessary changes to take care of yourself. It is amazing how often we will put our own happiness last because we want to love someone who cannot and will not love us back. This is something to work on in ourselves. Being in a relationship should be reciprocal. It should be something that lifts us up more than puts us down. If we are living in chronic anxiety, we must be careful not to mistake this type of heightened emotion for love. Tension is not love, and yet, when hope is involved it can be so easy to confuse the two. Take care of yourself. Get back to an emotional state that isn’t rollercoaster-like. You deserve love, you deserve for that love to be intense, but also loyal and kind. Not knowing where you stand from minute to minute certainly fills you with intense emotion, but when you feel like anxiety is eating you alive and causing you to feel completely off balance, then what you have isn’t love. Love is calm, love is peaceful, love is kind, love provides you with a sense of continuity and predictability. You have to grow to a place where you want more for yourself than drama. Love and drama cannot coexist.

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Dr. Sherrie Campbell is a licensed counselor, psychologist, and marriage and family therapist in Yorba Linda, CA,
providing counseling and psychotherapy services to residents of Yorba Linda, Irvine, Anaheim, Fullerton and Brea, California.

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